Love yourself. It’s that simple and it’s that complicated. The truth is that after God, the one person you should love is yourself, because until you love and accept yourself, it will be hard to let any other person love you like you deserve, hard for you to accept something as simple as a compliment, and you will constantly second guess yourself and doubt yourself worth.
You also have to forgive yourself for whatever might have happened in the past, and try to understand that no amount of worrying and crying and obsessing over the mistakes that you have made in the past can change anything. If you’re a Christian, an added bonus is that God already forgave you any sin you have ever or will ever commit, all you have to do is repent and accept the forgiveness that has been so graciously made available to you.
For the most part of my life, it never really occurred to me that I was beautiful. I mean my mum and my siblings told me but I figured they were saying it because they’re my family, it’s what they are supposed to, but I didn’t believe it for myself. I went through life thinking that I was just another ordinary girl, and all I could see was everything that was wrong with me; my tummy, my arms, my thighs, my everything. All that changed a couple of years ago, when I stumbled upon some scriptures that opened my eyes to the fact that God thought I was beautiful. What? The creator of the heavens and the earth says I am beautiful? I always thought that when people say you’re fearfully and wonderfully made, they meant it as an insult because that’s how these comedians make it sound, when in actual fact that scripture means that God actually put thought into making me, that every part of my body from the strands of hair on my head to the nails on my toes, was fearfully and wonderfully made by God, He thinks I am beautiful and flawless, wow! That blew my mind, and from that moment, I saw myself in a whole new light.
It doesn’t matter if I don’t meet up to society’s standard of beautiful, doesn’t matter if nobody pays me any compliments, the only thing that matters to me is how God sees me. The moment you realize who you are in Gods eyes, the world and its opinion begins to lose meaning to you, when guys tell you how beautiful you are, it doesn’t sway you because you already know. Now this doesn’t make you arrogant, it just makes you confident and so in love with yourself and that in itself is one of the greatest gifts you’ll ever give to yourself.
So the next time you feel ugly or undesirable, remember who you are, not who the world says you are, remember that God knew your name even before you were born, that he knows all the strands of hair atop your head, and He collects every tear you shed in the palm of His hands. Remember that God loves you, that He loved you even though He knew you might never love Him back, gave His only son as a ransom for you and is concerned with every breath you take! Forget what the movies say, that is the greatest love story ever told.
You are beautiful, you are smart, you are loved, you are worth it, you are important, you are amazing…repeat this to yourself until you start to believe it.
Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first- Carrie Bradshaw