Sometimes, Its OK Not To Be OK…

You can’t be strong all the time, you simply can’t. Its OK to cry sometimes, therapeutic even. Its OK to be sad, to be angry and or be upset at the turn of certain events. However, it is not OK to dwell on those feelings, cry but then wipe your tears and move on, Be sad, but then remind yourself that you are better off than certain people and that it could have been worse then promptly make up your mind to be happy. Be upset or angry but like the Bible says don’t let the sun set on your anger.

Its OK to lean on people, you cannot stand by yourself all the time,but be careful not to lean too much for everyone has their own baggage to carry. A support system is important too, mine comprises of my God, my mum, my siblings, my Pastor, and some select friends. You can figure out a selection that works for you and you will be amazed at how much lighter the burdens will become.

Disband the pity party! do not sit alone and whine and complain about how bad things are for you and about how things are not working out as they should, make a conscious effort to be thankful instead. You could make a list, maybe write it down, or type it on your phone or on your laptop. A list of the things you are thankful for, you will find that you might not even be able to write them all because for each thing that goes wrong, there something that goes right, something to be thankful for.

Its OK not to be Ok, and to lean on someone every once in a while, nobody has to be alone, everyone needs someone.

A Letter To My Mother…

Dear Mummy,

From my earliest memories, you have been the one that soothes all my aches, the one that answers most of my questions and the one who taught me practically everything I know. You taught me how to cook, taught me to give, taught me to fear the Lord, taught me to love, to forgive.You juggle five children, numerous relatives plus a demanding career and you make it look so easy when in actual fact its not.

Somewhere along this road called life, my siblings and I have erred but in a way that is true to you, you choose to admonish in love and sincere objectivity and move on rather than dwell on our short comings. The best cook I know, cooking for your children is a delight for you. My mum will wake up on a Saturday morning when she should be sleeping after enduring a hard week at work and cook up a storm! The smile your face when you watch us eat is epic! and after all that cooking, you will barely eat so I am guessing its because somehow just watching us eat, fills you up.


My Mama!

Mother, father, best friend, confidant, special adviser, stylist, road map,(my mum knows everywhere in this Lagos!) sister, consultant, chef, prayer champion, these are just a few of the things that make you so unique…

I hope I can be to my kids the kind of mother you are to me, I love you and I celebrate you today and I will for the rest of my life.


Random Advice: Tell the people you love, how much you love them, as often as you can,while they can still hear you…